The Death of a Spouse

In the United States, 2*-3 million people die each year from all causes. That is also about how many people get married each year, with nearly 750,000 getting divorced.

Both events separate couples from spouses. The question becomes are there emotional and social similarities?

There was and interview of a widow, who, not by choice, her choice would have been to continue married, stated that she realized that death ended her marriage. The question she pondered was ‘Does a divorce do the same?’

Most assuredly it does end the marriage, however, there is one fundamental difference. Divorced people can, and often times do, maintain a civil, if not friendly relationship. The death of a spouse ends everything.

How are Emotions Similar?

Each event carries the felling of great loss. And, depending on how the spouse died, there could be a feeling of relief. Maybe at death the person is relieved that their mate is no longer suffering or sick. When divorced, relief may come as a result of the spouse no longer being there to abuse or have daily contact.

Socially?

I don’t know! Do people, rather, does the community accept widows and widowers more than divorcees? It seems to be a question of what community you live in.

For instance; in most religious communities being divorced might be viewed as a sign of failure. Knowing that fellow believers could feel that way, can add to the emotional and social stress. On the other hand, widows and widowers usually receive social considerations, meals, invites etc. At least immediately after the loss of a Spouse.

Subsequently, divorcee’s have various support groups that seem to provide some sort of social outlet and acceptance.

Hmm! Judge for yourself. The podcast is active now; https://anchor.fm/divorcetalk/episodes/Michelle-Bankston-Live-edrd8u

*CDC National Center for Health Statistics 2017